Then you can ask how she is doing.Īs to what you should do now - after a day or two, write a message that has something interesting for her, with or without a question. tell her you're doing great but a bit swamped because you're organizing an 80s themed bachelor party for your friend. This is the way to lubricate the otherwise boring questions. Say something interesting or unique that makes her want to engage in a conversation. Would you want to explain 10 times how you are? What makes you more interesting than those other 10 guys with a boring question? If you're the hottest of them all, great, otherwise you'll have to work. I can guarantee that she has 10 threads already where the guys ask how she is. Now the conversation is a completely empty shell with none of you willing to say anything non-boring. She started with the boring empty question and you bounced the same thing right back.
Women can and will get away with this, but you can't. Puts all the mental effort on the other person to come up with something to talk about. You know that you're amazing, but the girl hasn't had a chance to discover this yet.Īsking "how are you" is as good as sending a dot. Ask a female friend to show her account and you will understand immediately that you're a grain of sand in the desert at first. Women usually get an incredible amount of matches (compared to you), and start a ton of conversations. But I can share what I learnt the hard way through hundreds of matches. You did mess up, I disagree with people saying this is fine. I find personalities within the healthcare industry vary GREATLY so you really don’t know. Just be you, don’t come on stronger or more passive. Just my 2 cents.Īlso, I’d say ignore the people suggesting do readjust your energy or anything of the sort.
Gifs never get the reaction that just a good strong clever and witty reaction has for me. Give her time, don’t double text, move on and assume she wont respond and don’t let it consume you.Īlso, I tend to shy away from gifs, I honestly think they are kinda corny and I think most woman under 30 do too, idk she might think it’s cute though. Ultimately I broke it off for u related reasons. She always ended up reaching out eventually when I assumed she wasn’t interested in moved on. I dated an PA student during a really rigorous rotation and she’d ghost me for 2 days at a time sometimes but when we hung out she wanted to talk for HOURS. Give it time, their schedules are insane. Pretty solid chance it’s because she’s a doctor. Everyone should be taking more chances, the internet has fkkd us up. If the chat lasts minutes, that person burned themselves for you by not continuing the conversation. If ladies do this to me, I answer and usually when I do get matches they answer "hey". I want to know WHY asking for your feelings upfront bothers you to your core, because me asking how are you is as old as time. Youre the reason why this stuff doesnt work but your swimming in hundreds if not thousands of likes that you feel like youre drowning, that you dont want to lift your finger at all and we need to do all the work for OLD. Do you not like being asked how youre feeling, how you are? Do you not like living in your own skin? What is it. "Shes a loser", where in the hell did this mindset come from and why have women become like this? Youre cutting out potential matches just because they asked you how youre doing.
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